How to Be Kinder to Yourself When Living With a Dog With Separation Anxiety
If your dog struggles with separation anxiety, you know it can take a toll on both of you.
Every training session, every attempt to leave the house, and every anxious moment your dog experiences can leave you feeling drained. It’s easy to put all your energy into helping your dog, but the truth is, your well-being matters just as much as theirs.
When you look after yourself, you are in a better place to support your dog through the slow, steady process of separation anxiety training. In this post, I share five practical, compassionate ways to care for yourself while caring for your dog.
1. Give Yourself Permission to Take a Break
Training for separation anxiety is a marathon, not a sprint. There will be days when progress feels slow or non-existent.
Taking time out from training is not a failure, it’s a way to recharge so you can return with patience and clarity. Even a few days’ pause can help you and your dog reset.
In fact, I recommend training only five times a week. This built-in rest gives both you and your dog the mental space to recover, process progress, and avoid burnout. Even a short pause can help you and your dog reset.
2. Connect with Others Who Understand
Separation anxiety can feel isolating, especially if friends or family don’t fully understand what you are going through.
Find support in online groups, local meet-ups, or communities of dog owners facing the same challenge. Sharing experiences, advice, and even just the tough moments can be hugely reassuring.
3. Work with a Professional for Guidance
A certified dog trainer or behaviourist experienced in separation anxiety can take the guesswork out of training.
They can help you create a step-by-step plan, monitor your dog’s progress, and provide emotional support when things feel overwhelming. Having a professional in your corner makes the journey feel less daunting.
If you are interested in finding out more about the support I offer, as a certified separation anxiety trainer, you can book a free call to find out more here.
4. Celebrate the Small Wins
It’s tempting to focus only on the big milestones, like your dog staying calm for hours, but in reality, progress is built from smaller steps.
Maybe your dog stayed relaxed for two minutes longer than last week. Maybe they settled happily with a chew while you moved around the house. These moments matter and deserve recognition.
5. Arrange Trusted Care for Your Dog
Sometimes you just need time to yourself without worrying about your dog’s anxiety.
Whether it’s a friend, family member, or trusted pet sitter, having someone who can care for your dog means you can do things you enjoy – guilt-free. Looking after your own needs helps you return to training with fresh energy.
Final Thoughts
Living with a dog with separation anxiety can be emotionally challenging, but you don’t have to face it alone.
By caring for your own mental and emotional health, you’ll not only feel better, but you’ll also be able to support your dog more effectively.
Remember – progress takes time, patience, and kindness, for both of you.
